This was the topic of a conversation with my girlfriends last night. Every one of us was in a dating depression. And I’m not talking depression of quantity. Between all of us, there are plenty of men in numbers. It’s a depression in the quality. And it’s not from a lack of places we are looking, from online dating to bars to the gym or anywhere else, we’ve got it all covered.
Of course, we decided, it’s not a problem with us. So what else could it be? Aha! It must be the economy. We explained to each other that people are depressed and not as motivated to date or spend money on dates or bars or marriage or having babies. People are more focused on saving and making sure they are taken care of in the future.
Then today I read an article in the New York Times, which said dating is at an all time high due to the economy, according to dating website numbers. So that weakens our ego-boosting justification. As I read further, they mentioned the frugality of their members, which reconfirms part of our theory.
So then I thought, maybe there are two things going on here that are making our dating scene so bleak. Guys are less willing to spend their money on dates and women are more willing to go on dates for free food and entertainment. Same frugality, different approaches to a solution. To sum it up, there are more women willing to go on more dates, and less men willing to spend the money. And this is what equates to a perceived depression in quality dates.
That being said, I think we should be dating more in an economic depression because dating leads to sex, which leads to stress relief and better moods, which leads to marriage, which leads to having children. And honestly, the only way to make sure you’re going to be taken care of later in life is to mooch off your kids.
So, if you were looking for insightful information, I am sorry. That’s my only comment because I’m just as perplexed about how to change this dating slump as everyone else.