According to a new study, this is the season for break-ups:
Let’s face it, this time of year is the worst to be single. especially if you are newly single, you know what I’m talking about.
As if some kind of cruel punishment for rejoicing the ultimate single girl holiday – Halloween – I get shot in the face with a machine gun loaded with the next round of extra not-so-fun to be single holidays.
Thanksgiving – the least of my worries. however, I still have to deal with the family, and the explanations of where my significant other is. like i really needed to recap that forty more times.
My advice for this: don’t go if at all possible this year. Say you have to work. Then take a personal day for you. get a massage or whatever you like to do best to make you feel good about yourself.
However, I know that this is most often unrealistic. we are all expected to be at the family thanksgiving dinner. Therefore, here are a few options to deal with it. If they don’t know you’re separated (i.e., family members you only see on the holidays), tell them he had to be with his family, had to work, etc. another no fail way to avoid the drama: start a more interesting drama talk piece about someone else in the family…”did you hear cindy is pregnant??” Then anytime someone brings up your issue, just change the topic to the juicier gossip, they will happily oblige.
Next comes the entire christmas season..this is when the longing begins…the traditions..the goofy holiday pictures…the list of once merry things that now only bring up bad feelings is endless.
After chatting with many other single, lonely girlfriends, my best advice is to start holiday traditions with a group of girls. No moping allowed.
Here are some ideas to get you going:
- hit up all of the local holiday events with a group of your best girlfriends.
- host a caroling party – make hot chocolate in mugs (spiked for extra fun) and visit a neighborhood you don’t have to show your face in the next day.
- go ice-skating with the girls.
- host a holiday baking party – bake pies, cookies, and all your favorite holiday sweets. blast some holiday music and brew some irish coffee.
- host a white elephant party.
Here is an explanation from The Santa Lady
1. Each guest who wishes to participate must contribute a gift. Everyone sits or stands in roughly a circle around the pile of gifts.
2. Prepare slips of paper equal to the number of gifts with clearly written numbers. Be sure to distinguish 6 from 9, 1 from 7. Each participating guest draws a number and holds onto that slip of paper.
3. On the first turn, the guest with paper slip #1 chooses a gift, opens it, and all admire it.
4. On the second turn, the guest with paper slip #2 gets the choice of “stealing” any unwrapped gift (#1’s) or choosing a wrapped one. If #2 steals #1’s gift, then #1 must open a wrapped gift.
5. On the third turn, the guest with paper slip #3 gets the choice of “stealing” any unwrapped gift (#1’s or #2’s) or choosing a wrapped one.
The game continues based on the following:
1. If a gift is stolen from you, you can steal a gift (within limits, described below), or open a wrapped one.
2. The turn proceeds until a wrapped gift is chosen.
3. A gift cannot be immediately stolen back from the guest who just stole it.
4. The fourth “owner” of a gift gets to keep it. The gift is “dead” after it has been stolen three times.
5. “Owners” of “live” gifts must keep them visible and hold them up when requested.
6. The gift exchange ends when the last wrapped gift is opened. Usually, guests are encouraged to perpetuate the gift stealing as long as there are “live” gifts, but no one is obligated to do this.
- host a sexy white elephant party: gag gifts or sexy gifts only